When You’re At a Low Point…

Hi guys…hope all is well with you today.

Listen, this post will probably end up being a little dose of reality and more personal than usual…

Why? Because today, I’m feeling that I’m at one of my lowest points.

When You're At a Low PointWay too much has been happening around here, nothing major like the loss of a loved one or anything, but when a person is pulled in so many different directions, their time being completely controlled, manipulated and demanded of, it starts to take a toll. I feel lethargic – more of a drain than a fountain and just beside myself.

Now I might feel this a little more stronger than most; I have a few physical ailments that lends a hand in all of this.

But, no matter how strong of a person you are or how weak…it doesn’t matter. The results are the same. You feel misunderstood – taken advantage of – totally alone and boom…before you know it you’re overwhelmed with depression, panic and anxiety, second guessing yourself.

Well that’s me today guys. I’m broken. And I guess it’s times such as these that the people around you who you think you can talk to about it just don’t understand, making it that much harder.

Have you ever tried to explain to your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend or a family member exactly what you’re going through and how you feel? And for some reason they look at you like you have a third eye, you’re talking a foreign language or they tell you that you’re feeling this way not that way?

I just don’t get it…Are we so self absorbed with our own lives and what we’re doing that the awareness of it all is hindered? We can’t even stop and just listen without being opinionated or judgmental?

So I’m starring at this computer screen wanting to post something motivational for all of you but I’m blank at this moment. In between getting terribly angry – although a bit subdued and bawling my eyes out because frustration has literally taken over.

Ya know, we all try to do good…at least I do. But it never seems like it’s ever enough. How much is enough? Why do some people place such high expectations on another person when they can’t meet those same expectations themselves?

Have you ever felt those insurmountable expectations? It sucks…You’re trying to meet them but you just can’t.

Now, I’m not wanting some kind of pity party… believe me. That’s not my style. However, what I do want is for you guys to know that when you’re at one of your lowest moments they do and will subside no matter what the circumstances are.

Here are the exact steps I’m going to take to get me out of this funk because I truly hate feeling this way. It makes you sick – unproductive and no good to anyone especially yourself…

1. Write down your feelings and vent (just like I just did)

2. You can get angry but just don’t hurt anyone or yourself

3. Cry and cry hard…it’s a stress reliever

4. Be nice to yourself…go do something fun or buy something if it makes you feel better

5. Spend time with your kids or pet…that love is always unconditional

6. Reach out to a stranger…they’re more apt to help

7. Do some soul searching…figure out where you might have gone wrong or didn’t give clarity or conviction to a certain situation

8. Talk to God, or whoever that is for you

9. Take time for yourself in a quiet place and remember all the good things you offer others

10. Get physical. Clean the house, get rid of clothes you don’t wear or get out into nature and cut the grass or something

After all of that, re-focus. Try and figure out what it is that YOU want out of life. Not by anyone elses standards, but your own.

I don’t know if you want to call this motivational, but it’s the best I can give you right now. I’m sure by tomorrow, things will be looking up. I’ve been through this kind of thing, as you, too many times. But the older you get the more gets thrown your way to bump you off track.

Thanks for reading this dysfunctional kind of post although I’m sure you all can relate.

Let me know what steps you take to overcome the low points in your life . . . it will surely help me and others.

Make it a great day . . .



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    • says

      Hi Chitra,

      It was just one of those days where everything from past weeks that had built up
      came gushing out when Casper asked me to write a motivational post. It hit me right between the eyes!

      My husband, my part time job, family…just an array of all kinds of stuff. Nothing major but it felt
      like everything was major! Have you ever felt that way?

      I’m fine…I just had to put the brakes on and get myself together.

      Thanks for asking…:)

      • says

        Joni

        Ever since I completed my studies and began earning, its feels as if life has planted a dagger above my head waiting to fall. Your problems and my problems are different but the agony of going through it the same.

        Supporting my mom and myself financially becomes too much sometime. The reality is that when you need help desperately, all family members whom you love and cherish suddenly chicken out and look on you as a worthless person. This is what irks me the most.

        Sometimes running a family becomes too much for me….I wish to leave everything behind but then you know, its not that easy. At this junction in my life. my main focus is to become financially sound and that doesn’t seem to happen no matter how hard I try. 🙁 🙁

        • says

          Chitra,

          Running a family can be very difficult to say the least. You’re so right about our problems may be
          different but the agony of going through it is the same.

          It’s funny…talking to people such as yourself who I really don’t know can somehow see the trees through the forest,
          unlike family and close friends, therefore giving encouragement. My guess is that ‘s God’s way of getting us to help
          each other whether you know them or not.

          And you know, leaving everything and everyone behind won’t be any better either. You’ll always be wondering, worrying
          and believe me, you’ll get a whole new set of struggles! 🙂

          I think you’re in the place where you’re suppose to be right now although it’s difficult. But realize how strong of a person
          you are becoming; you made it through your studies, you’re a wonderful writer and blogger, you’re caring and giving of yourself…
          and that’s only what I see just from your post. I’m sure you’re quite the lady in many, many other areas.

          My mentor told me sometime back, don’t chase the money. It will come. Just give to others and watch miracles take shape!

          Make it a great day!

  1. Deniza Macena says

    I know how it feels like. I went through a phase of events in my life that made ​​me very badly, no will to live. You talk to people and they do not understand you, they just say it’ll be alright, you’ll get over it. But not quite, you fight, fight and fight and ends up in the same place and it is very difficult to understand.
    I am a good person and do good to others. How can such bad things happen to good people, I’ve wondered this many times but still in not found an answer.
    I really liked the message, It did me very well. Sometimes I’m a little down.
    I’m fighting a disease that makes me weak at times, but I promised myself that I will not lower my head to this disease, I will fight, and even though I do not get results, I’ll try again until ucceed.
    Thank you for the text and the message.
    May GOD Bless you!

    • says

      Hi Deniza,

      I feel your pain. Many people don’t understand especially when you have some kind of illness or disease. It can be very lonely. But like you, I have a couple of illnesses that make me tired and weak also.

      And I found that when people don’t understand the disease, there is no way they can really understand
      what you’re going through…and that’s okay.

      But sometimes we would just like a shoulder to cry on or someone to listen right?

      And I also have wondered why bad things can happen to good people. I think it’s by going through all the trials
      and tribulations that make us very unique – makes us stronger – builds our character and allows us to help others.

      Remember Deniza, God will not give you anything you cannot handle. So you keep fighting and your results will change
      for the better.

      Thank you so much for posting. You truly are a fine person who has all the characteristics above!

      God Bless you and yours!

      P.S. I found a video I will be making a post about, however, I want you to see it first. Look for the link in your email.

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