Life’s Little Irritations…

Hello Income Insider’s readers!

Today I want to share a quick – personal story with you all about a little irritation I can’t seem to move passed…(I know, silly…)

Lifes Little IrritationsAnyway, I have an 11 year old neighbor boy who really has been through the ringer since his short life on this earth.

I won’t go into the details, but trust me on this one.

He’s an only child and let’s just say he doesn’t have much.

My husband and I have helped him from time to time with money – food – clothes, etc..

He came riding up our drive this past week on his bike which had no back tire and the actual metal was cracked in half. I couldn’t believe he could safely ride that thing on the street.

In a panic, he told me he needed $50.00 for a new bike he saw at a nearby store. Mind you – he didn’t ask…he told me that’s what he needed.

I proceeded to tell him I didn’t have that kind of money laying around just to give away to him. Well, he started to cry a bit.

One major detail:

This kid knows everything about everything and he can do anything better than anyone else…you know, a snot nose in my opinion. Believe me, we’ve had our moments.

So I got to thinking; Okay. To an 11 year old boy, your bike is everything. So I made him a deal…

I told him if he’d do some odd jobs around my house, work for the money, I would buy him that bike.

It felt good to me to be able not only to give him something he desperately wanted, but I was teaching him if you want something…it doesn’t come free.

It was a deal but he said the store only had one bike. I figured at $50 it wouldn’t last long.

It was supposed to be a beautiful weekend so I thought I’d just go purchase the bike and surprise him on Saturday with it for him to ride. I was so excited, feeling like I was making a difference in his life…

He came over after school that next day, ready to work. We started talking about the bike – the color – the make…guess what? It wasn’t the bike he had seen.

I was devastated. However, the bike I bought was really cool. I thought for sure for a kid who didn’t have much, he would absolutely love it. Any kid would.

Feeling like I should show him before he started to work, I uncovered it in the garage for him to see.

His reaction?

He started to cry and told me that was not the bike he wanted. AND…this one was junk!

My heart fell to my feet…at first. Then, I got pissed.

I was trying to tell him that sometimes in life you have to work your way up…right or wrong, that’s what I was taught. I was also taught to say thank you and appreciate things people do or give you.

But I didn’t get either one. In fact, he rode off on his dilapidated bike like it was my fault I didn’t get to the store sooner…

I didn’t see him at all that weekend…

Tuesday he shows up at my door wanting to work for a different bike he had seen. Let me say we had a very – different – short conversation…

He proceeded to tell me as he was leaving that “staring at a computer screen all day isn’t work”…nothing like manual work like he does.

Talk about high blood pressure! At that point, all I could do was tell him to leave…

I guess the moral of this story is that there are times in our lives when we choose to get involved in other people’s lives not knowing what the impact will be if any.

I hope years from now he will look back on this with a different set of eyes, realizing what a snot he really was.

Also, for parents; Do your kids a favor and teach them the value of appreciation and gratitude. Start young until they learn it and live it. They will carry that virtue throughout their lives both personally and professionally…

Not everyone is kind-hearted, but for those of us who are, we might think twice the next time…I know I already have. However, I will still pray for him that he learns a few of life’s lessons before it’s too late.

Please leave your thoughts below…

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  1. says

    My daughters bike was stolen this last Christmas from the back of our fenced in yard. She was absolutely devastated as was I because there was no way I could come up with the money to buy her a new one. One of my friends came forward and told me he had had hard times and people helped him and he wanted to pay it forward to my daughter and buy her a new bike. She was ecstatic. She cried she was so happy. I am sorry you had a horrible experience with sharing your blessings, but remember there are people out there that are sooo grateful for people like you!! God Bless You!

    • says

      Hi Kori!
      I’m sooo glad your daughter got a bike and I’m sure that taught her something she will carry in life with her.
      I betcha one day she’ll be prompted to pay it forward also! I love your story…:)

      God Bless you and your family also!

  2. Chelsea says

    Wow, not the ending that I was expecting and it makes me even more determined to raise my children to respect and appreciate that hard work goes a long way.

  3. Mrs. Buchanan says

    Children that are deprived from certain things in life do not learn how to appreciate things people give them because they are not use to it. When you started showing interest he didn’t know how to react because his parents never told him better don’t blame the child it all starts at home

    • says

      Hi Mrs. Buchanan,

      You’re right…it does start at home. However, I wasn’t giving him the bike. I wanted him to learn
      what it feels like to work for something you really want. Teaching him to have more self-esteem
      and take pride in his work. And the reward would be the bike.

      I’m not blaming him per se…but he’s been around me long enough to know I teach him things
      that he doesn’t get at home; God, the power of prayer and how to treat others…

      I’m sure I’ll keep trying…:) But I have to admit…this one really knocked my socks off!

      Thanks for sharing!

  4. Trisa says

    it’s so sad that today’s parents dont seem to have time to teach their children values,,, i raised 3 children on my own,worked 12 hours a day 6 days a week and still till this day my children now in their early 20’s say yes ma’am ,ty and hold the door open for a lady,,my kids have given their newest toys to children that had none,,,parents need to make time to teach their kids ,,,i’m so sorry that that happend to you,, you have a pure heart to help that kid ,,hopefully he will learn that nothing in life is easy ,,but will pay off with hard work

  5. Sophia says

    That was very kind of you to even consider doing something like that. Alot of children are very ungrateful and think money fall from trees. Maybe when he gets in his 30s or 40s, he will see this again. You my lady will be blessed.

  6. Samantha Henthorn says

    I’m thinking this kid was a total brat! He wasn’t appreciative of the bike u went out and got right away because you was concerned it would be gone. His parents should be so… proud of the fine job they have done in teaching the boy respect! This child is definitely manipulative!!!! πŸ™

  7. Yolafalana says

    What a beautiful heart you have to burden yourself with someone elses problem. I know it hurt deep down when you got the reaction you did!! Just not what you were expecting, Kids these days feel a sense of entitlement and that they expect to be given things when they ask for them! No questions asked!! I see this type of attitude not only in kids sad to say but adults as well!! Like your help just isn’t good enough, or expected and they are still dis-satisfied! I try and do unexpected things for the people around me and got the same unpleasant reaction and it does hurt. I have been learning NOT to be the helpful and thoughtful person i have been since i was little. Now, im sad to say…..im not going to be that way with them anymore πŸ™

  8. kenneth ranm says

    I have four sons by 2 x-wife,s everything I teach them their mother ,s un do everything is someone else,s fault

  9. hope says

    I’m so sorry you got such a hard time from this kid when you were trying to do a good deed. Please remember that there are people that still teach their kids values and there is a kid somewhere that would appreciate that bike,even if it wasn’t top of the line.

    • says

      Thanks for your kind words Hope.
      I know there are many – many people teaching their kids morals and values and
      I pray that will always continue…

      God Bless!

  10. Neecee says

    You definitely have a kind caring heart and that surely is rare and don’t let anyone change that because it’s a beautiful thing. Kids and adults are very different however, it’s true, the kid was ungrateful, maybe he thought the deal was broken because he agreed to work for a bike he visually liked and you never know why he didn’t appreciate the one you got, maybe some other kid had the same one and he didn’t want to seem like he’s copying, God knows.. But unfortunately kids don’t know how to communicate or be open and honest sometimes. It’s annoying, because you went through all that effort to make him smile and appreciate your kindness and care especially when you’re not obligated to do anything for him. But kids just don’t get it until put through situations a few times to understand. I would have explained how he made YOU feel too after what you did for him when you simply didn’t have to. Regardless, don’t change who you are πŸ™‚ its wonderful and enlightening for me to hear people like you are out there πŸ™‚ Thank you!

    • says

      Hi Neecee,

      Thank you for your insight! I will get the chance to explain to him how
      the entire situation made me feel. Maybe he will understand better for the next time.

      Thank you also for your kind words! πŸ™‚

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